David Schnarch. · Rating details · 2, ratings · reviews. Passionate Marriage is recognized as the pioneering book on intimate human relationships. PASSIONATE MARRIAGE: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed In Passionate Marriage, Dr. David Schnarch organizes fourteen chapters into three . Passionate Marriage: Sex, Love, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships By David Schnarch, Ph. D. Norton, pp. ISBN

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All of this interesting stuff was buried in ridiculous case studies – Schnarch is a sex therapist who also believes that in marriage, much of this differentiation work can happen through sex. The first time around, I’m not promising sexual Olympics or that my techniques are going to be wonderful, but basically, I’ll take care of myself and we’ll take care of each other, and we know that we already have a really good relationship.

Passionate Marriage : Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

If you’re not willing to have meaningful endurance and tolerate discomfort for growth, you’re not going to be able to accomplish any of your goals. And I’m wondering if you might be able to talk some about that.

On the recommendation of a friend I checked this book out from the library. Why don’t you just keep taking the pills? They are the people who now store the memories and keep them alive, including of each other. But hard to follow. And so there schnaarch integrity challenges built all throughout married and passsionate life. What is the connection between a couple’s level of differentiation and the level of hot sex they’re having or not having? So I started thinking, “OK, well, let’s have a baby.


Well, when we’re talking about human beings, we’re not talking about your opinion or my opinion. Now here is the really critical question, I think, for this work on passionate marriage: I have learned the hard way that you belong to you, including your body.

Check out the top books of the year paesionate our page Best Books of Not to all of us, when we’re not well-developed, but the better developed you get, the more integrity becomes important to you. And if you and I are poorly differentiated—meaning we have weak Four Points of Balance—we’re going to bog down like many, many couples do. And the fourth point of balance is called meaningful endurance, the willingness to tolerate discomfort for growth.

The problems of sublte prejudice mrariage ethnocentricism I had a harder time with.

I am so glad that this book was recommended to me and that I wasn’t afraid to read a self-help book! I recommend this book to anyone who feels frustration in a personal relationship or wrestles with a reoccurring issue.

Still not sure what to do with that. You really need to understand the severity of the people passiinate we work with here.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch

But holding onto yourself is one of the unique things about human beings. Intense, blunt, enlightening, inspiring. Thank you for the laugh. The hallmark of a well-differentiated person is not like a knight in armor clanking around where they’re in this kind of carcass and they can’t move or change like a lobster. But for those willing to put the philosophy into practice, I suspect their relationships would change for the better.

Customers who viewed this item also viewed. Before that, there was no self. That said, I can’t recall ever reading a book the way Davis read this one.

Those are the kinds of things that if somebody has been listening marriagw this whole conversation between you and I and they want to apply it, that’s what you do. I explained that to Ruth and she agreed. And that’s why I work with couples in committed relationships. You will have your partner’s undivided attention because they will want to know how the alien stole their partner and you showed up instead because they know.


What I saw was couples going through the problems they were having—which was sort of their worst nightmare—and that was how they became more evolved. Write a customer review.

Also this idea that we think intimacy is disclosing something personal to someone and then having them validate our experience or emotions. The ability to regulate your own emotional life. Would you like to tell us about a lower price? So my parents had to do that too; they were challenged and they stayed together when their peers broke up.

Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships

The second one is called marraige mind and quiet calm heart, which is the ability to contain your anxiety and not let your feelings overwhelm you and take care of your own self emotionally. It is all about maturing in a committed relationship marriage and confronting yourself and acting out of integrity. You know, I think related to this point is a very interesting comment that you made in Passionate Marriage, that “in a well-differentiated couple, blame and criticism stop.